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Do They Deserve It?

The person that needs to do something is not that person. The person that needs to do something is you! Some of those people in your life do not deserve your good thoughts. In other words, “They are bad. They are evil. They are wrong! They are inappropriate. They do not deserve your good thoughts,” and you stubbornly are not going to give them any. They may not deserve your good thoughts. But you do. You deserve your good thoughts about them. This is what the Art of Allowing is. It’s allowing my own Well-being.
—Abraham
Excerpted from: San Rafael, CA on March 09, 2001

This is so true but definitely a hard one for me. This quote was a “random” email open today because I don’t always take the time but today I did. As you know we get the message we are ready for. The only lessons that come into our path are the ones that we have sourced and are truly able to achieve. (I’m actually reminding myself of this right now … but you might already know that 🙂 )

My personal Theme lately has been about establishing boundaries. The way this is showing up for me has been in my relationship with my mother. She passed many years ago and I’ve been doing my best since then to make sense of the relationship we had while I was growing up.

At the time of her passing we were just starting to work things out but hadn’t gotten very far at all. The pain and anger from all the years of battle and betrayal was left for me to make sense of on my own.

A couple of months ago I finally came to an understanding of my mother as a woman. An understanding of how her mind worked and what may have been behind the way she treated me. My initial reaction when I felt the understanding was to forgive her and reach out for the feelings of peace that would surely follow.

But just then it occurred to me … this is NOT OK!!! I don’t care what her motivation was. The horrible way she treated me was NOT OK!!! And it felt powerful to hold boundaries for maybe the first time in my life. No matter what she was trying to accomplish I was the kid! Hurting me WAS NOT OK!!! I don’t care how good it made you feel or why!!!

Refusing to go straight into “now I understand so I forgive her” felt like a exercise in establishing a firm boundary about what’s acceptable and what is not in terms of behavior in my relationship with her. Even if it is about forgiving her spirit. The boundary lesson is for me in this human space.

So tell me … Do you tend to HOLD A GRUDGE? or Do you let things go quickly for the SAKE OF PEACE? Because I think I would have held on to this one for decades if left to my own devices.

“They may not deserve your good thoughts. But you do. You deserve your good thoughts about them. This is what the Art of Allowing is. It’s allowing my own Well-being.”
—Abraham

I owe thanks to God, Spirit, The Universe and Abraham for shortening my learning curve and giving me this message today. Like I said, I would have just held my boundary. Instead, I know it’s time to set my intention to remember good thoughts. I do feel vulnerable and nervous from past experience of letting my guard down with her.

So, what do we know for sure? The only lessons that come into our path are the ones that we have sourced and are truly able to achieve. In other words … God never gives us more that what we can handle.
Love and Blessings to you, Denise

P.S. Leave your thoughts below please. I really want to hear your thoughts